Putting your guard down

Romance issues are so difficult. Specially for us guys. Yet, this caught my eye and I had to give it a shot. "Does letting down your guard hurt more than the reason why they were put up?" My attempt at answering this question, is relative too, what I told myself the answer would be, if I were giving the advice too me. Does this make any sense.. See why love situations are so difficult. We end up talking to ourselves, and telling ourselves stuff.

The degree of pain or suffering for keeping the barrier up, with everyone would vary. Yet, I believe that the answer lies, not in why you kept it up, but why the barrier was put down. The reasons for bringing them down, shows maturity and the willingness never to give up. Forgive, yet never forget. In this we obtain experience, wisdom, and a better understanding of human psychosis. Our psychosis when it comes to social interaction leads us too making stupid mistakes. We allow ourselves to be manipulated and put into predicaments. How dull life would be without allowing ourselves to be put into predicaments, and being manipulated. And, when it comes to a little affection, love and warmth. How could anyone not miss that to the point of letting your guard down.

Wise words come time mind. "I guess we are only human" and "it is human to error." The scary part of this I believe is going through the same things/situations again. Because, we can't seem to pick a different kind of person. Why? is it that we always seem to pick the same person all over again, just in a different shell. Well because, you are drawn to the same things that got you hooked too the person, to begin with. Your psyche or subconscious automatically recognizes it, so your drawn. When this happens we need to understand that our subconscious is alerting us, not luring us towards them. Then and only then, will we not fall into the trap, of living the same things over again.

The differences which each of us have to decide to look for requires patients. One must figure out what those fine points are which triggers the attraction. We then have to massage it a little. What needs to be different next time for one to be a bit more selective. The art of selection must be perfected! I say! Allow yourself the time to go over your memory bank, and analyze things said in subtle conversation or slow motion, there lies the clues. There is a sort of playback mechanism in our minds. Just concentrate and turn it on. One good thing to look for are the promises said which were never kept. Yet, speaking from a guys point of view. There are times were we jump the gone, and over kill ourselves, trying to please. We go over board sometimes in trying to prove our worthiness, so much. We put our foot in it. We loose sight of the hidden complications that we get into when we do that. We need to control our impulses. Not be so pleasing and complacent, so as not to be rejected that night. As in, we guys would say anything just to get a piece of xxx(Yin). It becomes a habit, we can't help it. So, in the end everyone gets disgusted and the whole relationship just goes bonkers. I believe this happens also with gals that are on the same side. Oh yes, we all take turns. Sometimes it's the guy{so as not to say most of the time}, then the other time is the girl. Hence, "I guess we are only human."

One thing is for sure it is better to have known love once, then never to have known love at all. I wonder who said that. I know it is a quote from some famous poet or writer. Can't remember right now. Yet, one day in a casual conversation over this subject, with my not so little sister anymore. We came to a conclusion. And, that is "it is better that they love you more, than you them." And, in this way I guess, you' ll always be in more control of not letting your guard down to far.