Loving ain't easy

It is amazing how we as individuals put so much emphasis on being in love as the key component to happiness. To the point that when we do not acquire the same amount of love in return from an individual that we have fallen in love with. We tend to want the individual to love us forcibly or obtain revenge for what we believe they have done to us. Hence, love spells, incantations, and spiritual love warfare.

Through years of spiritual consulting I have noticed that an individual can come to see me for a divination. I interpret or see in the oracle, situations relating to work, money, family, health, prosperity, poverty, necessity, or drought, and not even an eyebrow is raised. Yet, the moment I touch upon the social relationships(FWB), marital, extra marital, dating, potential mates, etc. They are all ears, attentive, and totally concerned.

Many years ago, while I was assisting my late father in a diloggun(cowrey shell) reading that he was performing for one of his clients. He said "Pipo di algo ahi" translated(Say something here, pops). I had just came in and sat down, so was not privileged to the conversation or interpretation of the sign he had obtained. I looked at the signs written on the note pad. Then, I went ahead and said to the lady, "Do you work with children"; she said "Yes". I then asked, "does your income or economic situation revolve around the number of children you service or take care of"; the answer was "Yes". I then asked, "does the individual or person you are concerned about also take care of you economically, as in "does your boyfriend/mate pay your bills." She answered "No." I went ahead and explained that although she came to see my dad about securing her mate, because she believed he was cheating or had left her. That the most important issue right now was, her not loosing any children she depended on. I mentioned that any altercations with a parent or child, would cause her to loose a customer. That she was making a mistake putting more emphasis on the mate situation than the economic stability of her home. Needless, to say you know what happened next. Three months later I catch up with the situation by visiting my dad and finding the lady there. She mentioned that her mate had returned after my dad had done the spell, only to leave her after 3 months. During that time, she had a couple of disagreements with clients, lost 3 kids from her home daycare business and was looking for spiritual work in order for more clients to become available. She had fallen behind on bills, and the dude was no where to be found.

Another scenario involves a woman which came to see me in order to get her husband or mate back. Upon divination I noticed that he was spending much time away from home. I asked what kind of job did he have. She mentioned truck driver. I also noticed via divination that the relationship was with someone on the job. She mentioned that she knew whom it was, and that he was having a relationship with the radio dispatch girl of the company he did delivery for. She mentioned that they have had violent altercations over the situation, and he had left. She mentioned that when he got caught, he asked her to please accept this other woman in their home. She broke a broom stick on his head, and said "what kind of woman do you take me for." Luckily, he did not press charges. Yet, he left to live with the other woman. He had been gone for three weeks, she didn't have work and needed him back because he was the father of their two children. She desperately needed his support. I went ahead and did work to bring him back. I did not here of this person for about 7 months. When she returned, she was working, and very happy. I asked how was the marriage and the kids? She said, the kids were fine, the relationship no longer existed. I asked did he return? Oh yes, she said. Then I formerly kicked him out, by setting all his clothes out in the street. "I just wanted him to come by, leaving me some money, and have the satisfaction of tossing him and his belongings out." She had returned to obtain spiritual work for good economic stability, and someone new to come in her life to make her happy.

Then, there was this one case where I preformed divination for a woman in a love situation on the job. They were both working for the same health facility, She was in love with him. They have had an on going business and love relationship on and off for about 3 years. She was head over heals for him. Yet, he found someone else that he fell in love with, and dumped her. She wanted him to breakup with his new fiancee and to return to loving her. I mentioned that this was not correct and that she needed to accept her fate. That this man did not really love her and that he had a fiancee and was compromised for marriage. She should respect his wishes. I refused to do any work. That all is fair in love and separation. That know one can command what is in another person's heart. We have free will to choose and that when you truly love someone. You would want their happiness unconditionally, even if it meant them being happy with someone else. I mentioned that what I felt or saw in the divination was that she wanted him back out of vengeance. She said that I was wrong. She asked me to refer her to someone that would do the job, and I did so. Some time went by and I obtained a call from the fellow priest I had referred her too. He mentioned that he had seen the same things such as I had in her current divination. Yet, that he needed to take the job for economic reasons. He asked for advice on an effective approach, and I gave it to him. I explained that he would need to influence a separation amongst the pair, in order to work unification love spells, with the client. I mentioned that I tried to encourage her not to do this. Some time went by and my friend called, saying that the woman had acquired what she wanted. They were both living together and making preparations for marriage. I mentioned to him, don't be surprised if she leaves him hanging on the alter. Sure enough, 4 months later my friend called saying. You were right she did it after all. She did not show up in court and left him there. I asked "how did you know." He mentioned that she called to thank him, an told him so.

Finally, I have seen cases where an individual man or woman courts the other out of ulterior motive. Usually, the individual has suffered traumas from previous heartbreaks. They no longer feel love yet prey upon the other person's feelings. They have economic problems, suffer from instability, and need someone to care for them. They are still able to play the role of being in love. They say the right things, they make the right moves. Yet, when they obtain their objective or the individual can no longer give them what they need. They move on to someone else. I have had to do spiritual work on these clients in order for them not to become the victimizers after having been victimized. Do on to others as you would like for them to do on too you. Love on to another the way you would like another to love you. Keep this in mind. If you find yourself loving more than they loving you. It can become a stressor. How do you know that they truly love you in the same way? This is easy. Do they go out of their way to make you happy in the same way that you go out of your way towards making them happy? Another way is to know how much they are willing to put up with your parents, family, siblings children from previous marriage..etc. Granted, you don't need to live near all of them, or have them in your house every weekend. It's just the little things they say or do which makes a difference in recognizing acceptance or non-acceptance in too his/her family or surroundings. Ask yourself, what are your tolerance, and levels of patients and does it coincide with their level as well.

But, most of all true love overcomes all prejudices. Prejudices are not just, ethnic, cultural, or economic. The worst of them all is religious prejudice or tolerance. What ever happened to true unconditional, non-bias, bi-partisan, non-denomination love. I respect your form of worship, if you respect mine. I will visit your house of worship from time to time, as well as you visit mine. Love should transcend political and religious barriers. Bottom line, we should put all ignorance aside, and strive towards a blessed future together. So, next time your in a deep conversation with your mate, or potential mate. Ask the tough questions, "Will you love me in, in the same way that I am going to love you?" They answer .. "Oh, yes baby" You say... "Then Prove It!"